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Why Guys Don’t Like Me, Men Appreciate Me, and Women Love Me

Why Guys Don’t Like Me, Men Appreciate Me, and Women Love Me


Guys don’t like me, and I’m okay with that.

You see, I’m not on their side and they know it. I make things harder for them because I let women know what to look for when they want long term committed relationships, and I teach them how to wait for what they want.



This doesn’t work for guys… they like that moment in time when a woman is giving her all, hoping it’s enough to secure the commitment they’re looking for. Cause guy’s don’t tell women, “look, I decided long ago what category you fit into, and it’s not Wife. But… keep trying. This homemade meal followed by sex is great! Thanks!”

Men appreciate me because they’re the ones on the sidelines wondering why women aren’t available or responding to their gestures.

They love that someone is telling women how to be available for their love, respect, and dedication. They want women to understand that the road to a long term and loving relationship starts with observation, something that takes time. They love being faced with a woman who says, “Show me that you’re worth my heart” because they get so much satisfaction winning the ultimate prize – the admiration of the woman who’s caught their attention.

Women love me because I teach them.

I teach them they’re worth more than the bare minimum. I teach them that sex isn’t the deciding factor to a man’s heart but compatibility and personality are and that a man will wait for sex, no problem.  I teach them how to say, “I like you, but I’m going to wait to see who you are before giving you what you want.”

I teach them that men respect that and guys have better things to do than wait, and I teach them it’s okay to sit back and let people decide what they want, so they can better understand what’s going to be good for them in the long run.

I teach women their value to the world in general, and I teach them how to be calm, peaceful, loving leaders in their relationships. Yes, guys don’t like me. But that’s okay. Because I’m teaching women how to live in a world full of men. And if in the end, more guys become men to be with the women I teach, then I’ve done something good today.


Here’s what you can do going forward:  

If he’s NOT ready to commit and you’re tired of this scenario, or just want to make sure your next kiss is with someone who’s ready, get a copy of No More Assholes and find someone seriously amazing and ready to commit. He’s out there, I promise.



If he’s ready to commit and it’s time to take it to the next stage (woohoo!), read After The First Kiss– 7 Steps to Making Your First Year Together Ridiculously Awesome  and make sure you’re creating a strong foundation together.

This is the book that helps you avoid turning little things into big fights, and you’ll love how the advice inside helps you create the Magical relationship you’re looking for. Peaceful, cohesive, passionate, and intimate.


Need help figuring the whole thing out? Let’s work together one on one so you can gain the clarity and peace of mind you need right now. My specialty is your peace of mind, and I’m adept at giving the perspective you need along with the tools you’ll use to start feeling happier, clearer, and on your way to the Love you want ASAP.


Look, nothing sucks more than giving your heart to someone who isn’t giving theirs back.


If this is something you’ve done too often it’s time to break that pattern, and lucky for you, you’ve met the pattern breaker. You’ll use different behaviors so you get a different outcome, and I know how to trigger a man’s brain in all the right spots.

Your happiness depends on your decisions first and foremost, not his, and I’m the Sherpa who carries the burden of knowledge and shows you the way.

Chantal Heide - Canada's Dating Coach
Chantal Heide - Canada's Dating Coach
Chantal Heide is an Author and Motivational Speaker, focusing on dating and relationship building. Her books Dating 101, Comeback Queen, Fake Love Need Not Apply, No More Assholes, After The First Kiss, Fix That Shit, Say Yes To Goodness, and Custom Made (available on this website, Amazon, and your favorite online book retailer) help her readers attract the love they're looking for, regardless of their starting point . View her BOOKS page for more information. Be sure to check out more free advice on Facebook, YouTube, and Itunes, as well as fun tidbits about her life on Instagram and Twitter.

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