I Don’t Understand Your No Kissing For 3 Months Rule…
To make a guy wait for 3 months before kissing would be wonderful.. I LOVE the idea but I don’t think it’s possible!
95% of all the men in this world would not be able to do that.. their dick will fall off if they don’t have sex in 3 dates let alone wait for 3 months to kiss.
WATCH: 3 MEN DISH ABOUT THE NO KISSING FOR 3 MONTHS RULE (PS> YOU’LL BE SURPRISED)
So I went on a book tour and talked to a lot of women face to face about this no kissing rule.
Do you know how many looked at me in total shock, then said: “There’s NO WAY a guy will wait 3 months for a kiss!” Almost. Every. Single. One.
And every time my first question back was, “who told you that?” Here’s what I observed: Each of them took a moment to go back into their memory banks to try and find the origin of that thought.
The fact is, for the most part, nobody could. And those of them who had been told this culturally conditioned kissing super soon rule out loud heard it from a guy who didn’t have the patience to actually get to know them. Or from somebody they believed couldn’t wait, only to learn later that he was somebody they were breaking up with. Some of them even felt this was a guy they probably shouldn’t have kissed in the first place – and in fact wouldn’t have kissed, had they used a waiting period to see how much he’d change.
It’s a rule that’s been conditioned into us women that WE HAVE TO kiss when guys want to, to see where things go.
As in, see if we’re compatible. See if he’s decent. See if the words match the actions. See if his stories are true.
Of course, all those were women who’ve been in and out of relationships and realized that the ones they kissed had one of those qualities missing.
But here’s the thing – there are people who can delay gratification because they’re out there willing to work hard for better outcomes. And then there are people who want what they want when they want it, and have less impulse control.
I want the man with impulse control. THAT’S the one I can make a relationship work with because he’ll be able to make long term goals and stick with them. He’ll be more focussed, devoted, and faithful. But I won’t find him if I’m always in a relationship (one after another) with a selfish, short term thinker.
Good men exist, and they’re willing to wait for a kiss. So I’m advising MY clients to wait and see, instead of kiss and see. That way they’re not stuck in a relationship with the wrong guy and missing opportunities to fall in love with a great man.
By the way, males aren’t spontaneously combusting every time they go 3 months without sex. #Truth.
So if you want to try this, here’s a video about how to have that conversation with a date. If he can’t handle waiting three months, if he can’t handle getting to know you, if he can’t handle his exploding dick, maybe you’ll WANT to keep looking, and find a man with the ability to make long term goals, the desire to fall for who you are as a human being instead of treating you as a plaything, and with enough self-control to keep his dick from falling off and out of his pants if things don’t go his way.
WATCH: I HAVE A PRETEND FIRST DATE AND INTRODUCE THE NO KISSING FOR 3 MONTHS RULE!
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Chantal Heide is an Author and Motivational Speaker, focusing on dating and relationship building. Her books Dating 101, Comeback Queen, Fake Love Need Not Apply, No More Assholes, After The First Kiss, Fix That Shit, Say Yes To Goodness, and Custom Made (available on this website, Amazon, and your favorite online book retailer) help her readers attract the love they're looking for, regardless of their starting point . View her BOOKS page for more information. Be sure to check out more free advice on Facebook, YouTube, and Itunes, as well as fun tidbits about her life on Instagram and Twitter.