Short answer…yes. And some of you know this already, that’s why the term “manpanties” is floating around out there. But what most of you don’t know is why, and that’s what I’m here to explain. First, the science! So scientist actually discovered that it’s a FACT that men are quite sensitive, starting from the get go. It turns out, boys are born with less developed brains than girls, which is why we say today, “girls mature faster than boys”. Well it turns out that happens in the uterus, where girl brains are created at an increased rate versus boy brains, and literally girls are born more developed than boys. Yay us! So a lot of mommas and poppas out there will notice that their little boys cry more than girls, and are more emotional (on average) than little girls. Unfortunately, we kibosh that with lessons like “big boys don’t cry, suck it up little man”, and we teach boys to push their feelings down and aside for the sake of growing them into “big strong men”. What this does is turn them into men who don’t have the tools to deal with their feelings.
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So that’s boys, but what scientists also discovered is that grown men are STILL more sensitive than women.
How? They attached electrodes and studied men’s physiological responses to images that were divided into four categories – Blissful, Funny, Excited, and Heart Warming. Now, while men’s responses rated slightly higher than women on the first three, the rated TWICE AS HIGH as women on Heart Warming!! Let’s all do this together now…Awwwww
What about where women stand on the emotional scale? I know this will make sense to all of you…we show more brain activity when viewing negative images, and are more sensitive in the emotional departments of Guilt, Shame, and Embarrassment.
So WHY are we like this??
I’m going to take you back to Caveman days to help shed some light. Every time I find something out about how we function I ask myself, how would this help us survive as Cave People? BEFORE TV’s and cell phones and skyscrapers. (hard to imagine, I know). And here is what I discovered. Women are the survival link to children, starting with the fact that we make them, so the care and survival fall quite heavily on our shoulders. Being in tune to any negative changes in their little bodies means we can respond on time, and bearing the burden of guilt, shame and embarrassment means we hold ourselves more accountable to their survival. Men on the other hand, need to be accountable to OUR survival (so we can facilitate the survival of the young), so they are more tuned to signals of happiness…you’ve heard the saying, “happy wife, happy life”? A good man lives by this credo, and has a fundamental, instinctual understanding that a happy partner means optimal survival of the clan. So there you go. Not only are men sensitive, but their instinct tells them to watch for, and create, our happiness! This is why you want to be with a MAN instead of with a GUY btw smile emoticon Guys don’t like being responsible for sh*t.
Now ladies, understand that 67% of men HIDE the depth of their sensitivity because our culture taught them to. You know that list of things you want in a relationship? Reassurance, Support, Kindness, Displays of Devotion, Grand Gestures? Guess what…men want, nay they NEED, the same from us. They’re just not saying so.
Here’s what you can do going forward:
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Look, nothing sucks more than giving your heart to someone who isn’t giving theirs back.
If this is something you’ve done too often it’s time to break that pattern, and lucky for you, you’ve met the pattern breaker. You’ll use different behaviors so you get a different outcome, and I know how to trigger a man’s brain in all the right spots.
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Chantal Heide is an Author and Motivational Speaker, focusing on dating and relationship building. Her books Dating 101, Comeback Queen, Fake Love Need Not Apply, No More Assholes, After The First Kiss, Fix That Shit, Say Yes To Goodness, and Custom Made (available on this website, Amazon, and your favorite online book retailer) help her readers attract the love they're looking for, regardless of their starting point . View her BOOKS page for more information. Be sure to check out more free advice on Facebook, YouTube, and Itunes, as well as fun tidbits about her life on Instagram and Twitter.